BEFORE weddings began costing a small fortune, it was tradition for the bride’s parents to foot the bill.
But now that the average couple splash out over £30k on their big day, it makes sense that both sets of parents usually help cover the cost.
That said, one raging bridezilla has been slammed online after she threatened to UN-INVITE her parents to her wedding because they wouldn’t contribute financially.
Posting on Reddit’s Am I the A***** forum, the bride explained how her mum and dad had “never been good at nurturing” but she had held out hope they’d at least offer to pay for some of her wedding.
She wrote: “My fiancé and his parents are paying for about 80 per cent of it – which is the religious ceremony, the venue (with table decorations and all), the food and the music.
“And I am putting the last 20 per cent, which is gonna be transportation with buses from the nearest big city to the venue, the photographer, the party favours, and my wedding dress, shoes, hair and makeup.”
It might be petty, but if they refuse to pay I will feel vindicated because they would have wasted all this money on outfits they aren’t going to wear…
The bride added: “My parents made it clear that they didn’t have the money nor the intention to pay for the wedding in any way.”
But after her sister told her that they’d spent $2,000 [£1,450] on new outfits for the big day, the bride is now considering not having her parents there at all.
She continued: “[My sister] told me it’s really expensive over the top clothes with shoes and jewellery to go with it, and that they said that overall it had cost them close to $2,000.
“That made me angry, because they really didn’t need to spend that much money on it, and if they had that money to spare I could have used it for the wedding.”
Although the bride fears her parents will be “better dressed” than her on the day, she now feels “neglected and rejected” considering they had the money to spare.
She concluded: “I want them to participate financially to the wedding, even if it’s just a small amount.
“My budget for party favours is $300 [£217] and I want them to pay for that. And if they say they can’t then I don’t want them to come to my wedding.
“I would like to have them there but under my terms, not theirs. I don’t need them. And it might be petty, but if they refuse to pay I will feel vindicated because they would have wasted all this money on outfits they aren’t going to wear, because they won’t have the occasion.”
Needless to say, the dilemma sparked fierce debate in the forum – but people largely thought the bride was in the wrong.
One replied: “[You’re the a******] – If you can’t afford an expensive wedding, don’t have one. Stop relying on other people to pay for the lifestyle you can’t afford.”
Another said: “Your parents don’t automatically owe it to you to pay for your wedding because they bought new outfits to wear!
“If you can’t afford the wedding you want (without assuming everyone in your family ‘owes you’) then you downsize or wait and save, like the vast majority of people.”
Meanwhile, a third said: “Figure out whether you want your parents there at all, but leave the paying for your wedding out of it.”
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